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Singles Are There Really Christian Men Out There? Hey God! Are there really Christian Men out there somewhere?! Yes, Betty There really are and I have their Address!! They are real. They are alive and well in our world. Men of God. Usually when we hear the term, Men of God, it is describing a minister, pastor, priest. Those men represent a very small percentage of the men of God present in our lives or perhaps not present in our lives. A Man of God, to me, is just that. A man who loves God, puts his love for God above all things, and loves and respects his family and friends. I am learning that there are many, many Men of God out there. We just have to ask God to help us find them, when He thinks the time is right. A few years ago I suddenly found myself single again! I was a single Christian woman, hoping to someday have a Christian Man in my life. It would indeed be a new experience for me. Coming from a family in which the Head of the household was an alcoholic, my two brothers began drank from a young age and were unfaithful to their wives, several brothers-in-law who were unfaithful to my sisters and finally the ultimate sadness—a husband who was unfaithful after 14 years of marriage. I’m afraid I was very doubtful there was a trustworthy man alive! Having been married to two men, neither of whom were Christian, my life was full of distrust and unhappiness in relationships. Then my life took a drastic, wonderful turn –I was given a gift. A chance to change the direction it had been going. My gift was a wonderful new church home where I saw relationships between husbands and wives that were different from any couples I had ever been close to. Couples who genuinely loved and respected one another. I met a couple of men in my singles group who were very serious about their faith in God and soon became my very special friends. I learned through their friendships that there truly are men who believe in monogamous relationships and celibacy. This was almost too good to be true! For those of us who have been married most of our lives, being single can be a very hard life to live, but I decided I was ready to follow their lead, with a lot of help from our Lord! I had the opportunity to meet with Christian singles from all over the state at a four-day conference at Mt. Herman Conference Grounds in Santa Cruz county and discovered that there are many, many single men just like my two friends. This Conference was a truly awesome experience. I saw men and women exchanging ideas, desires, longings, hopes, dreams and heartbreaking stories of the past without embarrassment or shame. Men who were not afraid to laugh and weep together. Men who were not afraid to hug one another in friendship. We had very knowledgeable speakers, wonderful music, good food and fellowship with other Christian singles. This is such a great way to meet new friends and perhaps, just perhaps, that man and woman whom God has chosen for each other will bump into each other and a friendship will begin that will someday become Marriage Vows. It was stressed to us at one of the meetings that we don’t have to worry about finding the person God has chosen for us. In answer to one woman’s question about how to find a mate, the speaker, Doug Stevens, told us that we don’t have to search for our mate, “God has our address”. He will know how to get us together when the time is right. We all thought that was an interesting idea and it became the catch-phrase of the weekend. One of the speakers stressed to the men that they must wait for a woman of Character. This really left an impression on my heart because it made me realize that I was not yet mature enough in my faith to be the kind of woman who is right for the quality man I wanted in my life! What an eye opener! Who me? I had always thought of myself as being quite a catch. I had to except that I had a large amount of growth to experience before God would give that man my address. There is a bible verse that is very important. We need to memorize it and file it under: An Absolute must. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV) This is so very important. I believe that anytime a Christian marries or dates a non-Christian our faith or faithfulness can be weakened or totally destroyed. We must be faithful to our love for Christ and follow His teachings. Women, don’t settle for less than God has planned for you. Don’t spend your time searching for the right man. Spend your time growing in Christ and when the time is right HE WILL KNOW YOUR ADDRESS! AUTHOR'S NOTE: God decided I was ready shortly after I wrote this commentary and gave my address to the man who is now my husband. Life under God’s care is pretty spectacular! |
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Betty Alawine Overstreet has always had a love for the written word, either reading other peoples writings or writing down the many thoughts that wander through her mind. Only in recent years has she come to realize that the words she creates are gifts from God to be shared with others.Visit her website at